Sticky Situation Shoes
There are the moments as a mom - that I wish I was not the mom. Having to stand your ground and enforce what you say.
My daughter's emotions have been on overdrive - hormones and just a rough week. This has resulted in her snapping and getting upset about everything. Last night before going to bed it happened and then again this morning getting ready for school. So today when I picked her up from school, I told her that if she planned on having her friend spend the night this weekend - that I expected two things.
1) She would come home, do her homework and then help clean up around the house
2) She would not talk to me the way that she had in the last 24 hours, or I would cancel the sleepover in a heartbeat
We came home and she helped with cleaning...ok.
Husband came home and his friend stopped by. My daughter couldn't find the remote to the TV - now mind you, she has a tendency to hide it when she is watching something that she is engrossed in and doesn't want anyone (ie., her father) to change the channel. Well she hid it. And then couldn't find it. I told her she would finish eating and then she would find the remote.
She couldn't find it. I said I don't care - you are going to find it - you had it. This resulted in her flippin her shit (as my friend would say) and in turn I told her to go to her room and her sleepover was officially cancelled. She responded with the ever dreaded - "I hate you". I texted her friend and told her we would have to have the sleepover another time.
After a trip to her room to tell her to be quite - I didn't want to hear her yelling or crying - I was done and as far as I was concerned, she could go to bed. I heard her come out of her room for a moment, but then she went back in. I just got up to use the bathroom and there on the floor was a note. It read:
Dear Mom and Dad,
I don't know if this will mean anything but here it goes. I have taken advantage of you, you are the best parents a kid could have and I don't appreciate you. I haven't noticed this since a little bit ago. I have been so stupid and selfish, you guys do everything in your power to take care of me and I don't see that. My friend hasn't finished the time machine yet but if she had there are a lot of moments I could think of to use it
(one of them is this one).
Signed
Your daughter who can't control her emotions
Seriously? Nothing like a stab in the heart and knowing that I have to stick to my guns and not allow her to have her sleepover - even when her note brought me to tears. The thing is, I know she means it.
Why does being a parent have to be so hard emotionally sometimes?
"If you have never been hated by your child you have never been a parent"
Bette Davis
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